(07-11-2014, 12:48 AM)carlcockatoo Wrote: [ -> ]My overall opinion on hate speech laws is that it should only be an illegal act when it is actively encouraging violence. I only watched a ten minute excerpt from that film when the attack first happened, but what I saw felt blatantly Islamophobic. I'm on the fence about this stuff. I wouldn't be too upset if this kind of thing was prohibited from public use, but I don't if making this sort of thing should be a criminal offence, especially if it's just ignorance. I do understand not wanting this stuff to be publicly used because there are detrimental effects towards members of society (especially racial, LGBT, etc. groups because those are things you can't change, while with Islam they could be attacking the ideology rather than Muslims themselves. That wouldn't count as hate speech to me). Hate speech is in a way libel on a large scale, but I don't mean that as if we should press charges against every idiot who makes a racist comment (countries that have hate speech laws don't do that, hence the National Front, etc., which is why I lol when people accuse France or wherever of being a totalitarian state). I do not believe any of this should be censored to prevent attacks though. By that point, it's the terrorists who are in the wrong. Attacking an embassy is obviously way worse than publishing a dumb, Islamophobic film.
True. I just feel like practicing free speech that would not in itself encourage violence but that could predictably inspire it is all
too similar to explicit encouragement in the end. It's as if I knew where Salman Rushdie was hiding and revealed it to the public. Not to alert the radical Muslims who are out to get him either -- just because. But like you said, you're on the fence (with Salman, presumably. Oh wait, whoops).
I recently said that being a jerk is, to an extent, legal, and protected by the constitution. Cheating on one's own spouse, being verbally racist and being an egotistical individualist who spends money exclusively on oneself are all legal, but all that's being a huge jerk. Which again, is legal, to that extent.
This doesn't mean that we shouldn't stand up against what we perceive to be wrong. We just have to cause as little collateral evil as possible while doing it.
(07-11-2014, 12:04 AM)Grungie Wrote: [ -> ]Thanks to WWF's spanking thread, I'm kind curious about spanking causing serious complications. Everybody I knew growing up were spanked, and most of my college friends said they were spanked, and everybody is normal, so I'm curious if it's really a serious thing, or it's blown out of proportion. Kind of like how anti-circumcision people try to convince you babies are constantly dying and your dick no longer works.
I'm almost reluctant to admit that I've never had any real qualms with spanking in general. Everyone I hear talk about it seems to use the terminology "medieval punishment". In fact, it was probably by far the most effective punishment (and I need to underline the definition of punishment as implying
fruitfulness -- punishment without any intention of
discipline is just vengeance) I personally could ever get, and I turned out fine. I turned out better than fine, even. I respect healthy authority but know to recognize when it's out of line, and whether obeying it would be "objectively" bad.
If you end up injuring a child, you've completely missed the point of spanking. It's far more about humiliation than about physical pain, which is why it'd be far more humiliating (and effective) to be spanked in front of your friends than grounded in front of them.
I'm also circumcised, and I've explained before why. It is far better that I was (albeit at age 4) because
It's also the far more hygienic option. I think many anti-circumcision advocates are kind of ignorant.
I
am against female genital mutilation, which is pointless and it
actually kills people. The purpose behind it is also abominable.
(07-11-2014, 12:48 AM)carlcockatoo Wrote: [ -> ]I am definitely against spanking. Most people I know who simply got 'spanked' did not grow up damaged, but in many cases corporal punishment can be apart of worse child abuse. I know people who live in messed-up households where spanking turned into worse things as they got older.
Then it's the worse corporal punishments that are bad in themselves rather than light spanking. This is where I'm saying that injuring a child invalidates the purpose of spanking. If hitting doesn't work as discipline, then a parent should change method completely. To me, there are obvious lines that should be drawn. If you go beyond them willfully, you're not a parent, you're a tyrant who shouldn't have children.
Tap a child gently on the bum twice, that's okay in my book. Flagellate one with a belt until (s)he bruises, you're sick.
(07-11-2014, 12:48 AM)carlcockatoo Wrote: [ -> ]In not serious cases, it's just a short-term effect, but not one that I am supportive of. My dad likes to brag about spanking me as a kid, saying that 'that's what good parents do' and that 'that's why I'm so good', etc. I disagree, because it was rare that I ever did anything bad. When I did (and got caught), I'd get spanked for a few minutes, cry like a bay, etc. It didn't really change my behaviour. Furthermore, I still broke rules (rules that I don't consider to be 'bad', like sneaking out with my cousins lol) and never got caught, but that did not lead to me growing up bad.
Well I only got spanked for really heinous things, like hitting my brother. Like I said, if it doesn't work for your child, you need to find a different strategy. I know this through experience because my little brother is notorious for being a troublemaker and no amount of grounding matures him. I'm starting to think my parents should try considering other punishments. Might be a little too late for that though, as he's sixteen.
(07-11-2014, 12:48 AM)carlcockatoo Wrote: [ -> ]
Geezus, now that's just ridiculous and certainly does not warrant a slap on the wrist, let alone the face.
As for pets -- they don't learn that way. Pets tend to learn through reward rather than discipline. Plus, they tend to behave according to instinct.
When it comes to children, I personally think that that might be effective, but I fear that it merely encourages them to behave in order to get something, not because good behavior is a reward in itself. There should be a balance between reward and punishment that works for the child, even if that means no punishment or, alternatively, no reward at all.
(07-11-2014, 12:48 AM)carlcockatoo Wrote: [ -> ]Another piece of anecdotal evidence is my cousin, who is just a couple of months younger than me. My uncle is vehemently against spanking, and my cousin is as well-behaved as I am.
Like I said, maybe he was disciplined otherwise and that worked for him. Grungie is right, punishment should be a case-by-case thing, which is why we have courthouses at the judicial level.
I'm certainly against child abuse, but I certainly don't believe all forms of corporal punishment qualify as such, but that's just me. I do however believe it should be chosen almost as a last resort, if everything else fails (and if it fails as well, keep searching). I'd probably be more traumatized if I were punished "softly", such as being banned from going to an event that only happens once a year. Proof being that I barely recall one spanking (it happened rarely, and when I was quite young) but I recall all those times I was stripped of my video games for months because of my grades (though that was more for motivational reasons than disciplinary) and that year I couldn't go to the school Christmas party because I had too many strikes in my agenda and instead went to detention. Not that those were punishments I believe were detrimental, but they certainly seemed more unfair and heartless at the time.