08-15-2014, 11:37 PM
(08-15-2014, 11:20 PM)crazysam23 Wrote:Well I guess it makes sense you don't really understand the implications of completely demeaning and impacting the mental psyche of a young adult if you want to compare parenting to a corporation. Do they have the legal right to act in such a manner? Sure they do. Is it understandable why they would have that perspective? Sure it is.(08-15-2014, 10:51 PM)peternorthstars Wrote:Nah, I'm basing this off the mentality that, if someone is paying for you and supporting you financially, they can pretty much dictate stuff like that to you. You may not like it, but it's how it is.(08-15-2014, 09:01 PM)crazysam23 Wrote: Well...you have 2 options:
- Obey their rules (and therefore suck it up)
OR
- Move out.
:shrug:
A mentality like this is out of date and is a major reason why slip is having an issue.
It's hard for parents of an older generation to understand that the current landscape for young people isn't what they grew up with. Kids are staying with their parents longer as a necessity and as a sacrifice for their future. Being restrictive and overbearing like that just hinders the kid from growing up. I'm sure a kid loves living with helicopter parents restricting them with silly middle-school restrictions and having a complete lack of freedom/independence.
Your statement seems to be the "it's not you it's me" of parenting. Once upon a time any dickhead with a high-school degree could wander out and make something of himself with a bit of hard work. Not the case anymore.
To bring a non-parenting example into the mix, suppose you're working for a company, and the company pays for you to get a master's degree. They expect you to get certain grades, because they don't want their money wasted. Why can they do this? Because it's the company's money.
And trust me, I know all about not moving until "later". Until a few months ago, I was living with my parents. And I'm 25. But just because you're an adult doesn't mean you don't have to follow your parent's rules. :shrug:
But that doesn't mean those actions are an example of good parenting. It shows a complete disregard and ignorance towards how the modern world functions and towards their own kid. It's stressing ideologies two generations old based upon a foundation that has been rotting for twenty years.
Holding that kind of opinion is having little empathy towards your own son or daughter. I understand why it happens but it's really strange to me. It's also in many ways a very American way of viewing things so maybe that's the issue.
It's also not wise to stress such an ideology when you will likely be relying on your kid to look after you when you are elderly. ;)
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