08-15-2014, 11:20 PM
(08-15-2014, 10:51 PM)peternorthstars Wrote:Nah, I'm basing this off the mentality that, if someone is paying for you and supporting you financially, they can pretty much dictate stuff like that to you. You may not like it, but it's how it is.(08-15-2014, 09:01 PM)crazysam23 Wrote: Well...you have 2 options:
- Obey their rules (and therefore suck it up)
OR
- Move out.
hrug:
A mentality like this is out of date and is a major reason why slip is having an issue.
It's hard for parents of an older generation to understand that the current landscape for young people isn't what they grew up with. Kids are staying with their parents longer as a necessity and as a sacrifice for their future. Being restrictive and overbearing like that just hinders the kid from growing up. I'm sure a kid loves living with helicopter parents restricting them with silly middle-school restrictions and having a complete lack of freedom/independence.
Your statement seems to be the "it's not you it's me" of parenting. Once upon a time any dickhead with a high-school degree could wander out and make something of himself with a bit of hard work. Not the case anymore.
To bring a non-parenting example into the mix, suppose you're working for a company, and the company pays for you to get a master's degree. They expect you to get certain grades, because they don't want their money wasted. Why can they do this? Because it's the company's money.
And trust me, I know all about not moving until "later". Until a few months ago, I was living with my parents. And I'm 25. But just because you're an adult doesn't mean you don't have to follow your parent's rules. hrug: