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I think I just over-reacted yesterday. Needs more time me thinks.
I'm not telling you to take any drastic actions, but I will say that the only time I've ever been depressed was when I was dating a person who was in a really deep depression. I always wanted to reach down and help to pull her out of that pit, but instead I was just pulling myself deeper and deeper.

She is doing better now, and I do feel like I made a significant impact on her, but honestly just being her friend was more effective than dating her. Obviously your situation is different, but I would say that the more energy you put into trying to "rescue" someone else from their depression the more depressed you will be yourself, but if you put energy into trying to get yourself to a better place and reaching a better point in your life while continuing to positively interact with the other person, then you will get better.

Basically its good to have someone who cares about you and someone to care about, but don't let your relationship hold you down.

I would also agree that you will probably want to get some shit sorted before you make any big decisions.

(03-28-2014, 05:23 PM)crazysam23 Wrote: [ -> ]Well, true. But oddly enough, they think they can afford to go deaf. The human ear isn't mean to hear music that loud, that close to the eardrum.

To be fair, my headphones are shitty, so the volume level is not as high wearing them as you would expect hearing them from 5 feet away. They put out a lot of noise straight into the room instead of towards my ears. I never wear headphones in public though so its kinda a non-issue for me.
I feel you Danjo and you make a good point.

We had another spat today because she tried to guilt trip me about a problem that wasn't a problem and took her bad mood on me. I ended up threatening her. I was in a dark place, but it was very very stupid of me. We parted ways for a bit but eventually talked it out a bit. We're going to try and change things to make them easier.

The problem that I now have is that I feel like I'm in a Final Destination movie. As in, I got so convinced we were going to break up because it was so bad, that now I feel like our relationship has sort of "cheated death" so to speak and something much worse will now happen as a result. This is silly paranoia, I know, but I can't shake the sense of foreboding. This is made worse by the fact I didn't really expect things to last this long and so I get paranoid we're running on borrowed time. Again, it's silly, but there nonetheless.

I'll just stick things out for now and keep stress to a minimum
This goes without saying, but be VERY careful what you say when you're having bouts of paranoia.
Oh definitely, I'm careful. Normally just go for walks with music to clear my head.
(03-31-2014, 09:04 PM)Mr Maps Wrote: [ -> ]I feel you Danjo and you make a good point.

We had another spat today because she tried to guilt trip me about a problem that wasn't a problem and took her bad mood on me. I ended up threatening her. I was in a dark place, but it was very very stupid of me. We parted ways for a bit but eventually talked it out a bit. We're going to try and change things to make them easier.

The problem that I now have is that I feel like I'm in a Final Destination movie. As in, I got so convinced we were going to break up because it was so bad, that now I feel like our relationship has sort of "cheated death" so to speak and something much worse will now happen as a result. This is silly paranoia, I know, but I can't shake the sense of foreboding. This is made worse by the fact I didn't really expect things to last this long and so I get paranoid we're running on borrowed time. Again, it's silly, but there nonetheless.

I'll just stick things out for now and keep stress to a minimum
Here's an idea: when you get that negative type of thoughts, say to yourself, "NOPE! NOT HAPPENING!" If the way my thoughts work, you'll probably have to say that to yourself several times before your brain "gets it". But it does help me deal with negative thoughts.

Worth a try for you, right? Worst that can happen is that it doesn't work for you, and you're no worse off than before. Confusedhrug:
Is Maps just paranoid, is he just stoned?
(03-31-2014, 10:52 PM)Grungie Wrote: [ -> ]Is Maps just paranoid, is he just stoned?

Or, to quote Green Day more correctly "Is Maps just paranoid, uh yuh yuh yuh?"
No that's just verse 3
2 actually. 3 is "Am I just paranoid, or am I justuhhhhhhhhhhhhh". He does actually kinda pronounce it the first time though.